Adoptees: Should You Search for Your Birth Parents?
How do I find my birth parents? It’s a common question asked by many adoptees upon reaching adulthood. But the decision to contact birth parents usually comes only after arduous – if not painful – introspection.
Before making the choice for yourself, you should take some time to consider the benefits of searching versus the emotional toll it might take.
Why Search for Your Birth Parents?
Finding your birth parents will have a huge impact on your life in a number of different ways, some obvious – and some not.
There is the obvious benefit of getting the closure that finally meeting your birth parents will give you about your origins. For many, this is the main motivation to undertake a search. But learning about your biological family has value beyond emotional closure. There is also the practical consideration of gaining knowledge of your family’s medical history. This could prove lifesaving down the road.
What Options Are There for Tracking Down Birth Parents?
After speaking with your adoptive parents, you can turn to the adoption agency they worked through. The agency might be able to provide some leads. If that doesn’t work, you can also turn to an online adoption reunion registry. These are sites that attempt to match up adopted children and biological parents who are looking for one another.
Of course, both of these options are most effective when you are searching for a biological parent that wants to be found. If they do not, it’s common for these methods to result in a frustrating dead end. However, adoption agencies and registries are no longer the only way to search. Web technology has also made some alternative methods of finding long lost parents available as well.
Using an Online People Search to Find Biological Parents
People Searches are online search mechanisms that analyze and aggregate data from billions of different public records. What makes a people search a great tool for finding a biological parent is its simplicity. All you need is the name of the person you want to find and you can start looking. If that name appears on any social media accounts, criminal databases, property records, or even anywhere on the internet, you’ll be notified.
This effectively widens the net of your search beyond the limited capabilities of an adoption agency or registry. And even better, it doesn’t require your biological parents to be looking for you themselves in order to work.
The Importance of Closure
All adoptees have their own reason to search for their birth parents. But while the purpose is individual, the result is often the same: closure. Having the questions you need answered is critical to acceptance and living a life free of nagging doubts and regret. So, whatever has compelled you to go looking, using these methods will give you the best chance to finally put your mind and spirit at rest.